It was all over the news recently; a group of feminists held a protest during the red carpet event for the newly released drama Suffragette. The group, who were allegedly protesting against domestic violence against women, threw themselves onto the red carpet and laid there in protest, basically throwing a childish tantrum at an otherwise classy event.
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the hardships that the suffragettes went through to bravely get women the rights that we now take for granted such as the right to vote and the right to equal opportunities. I am all for feminism when it’s done thoughtfully and when it’s actually needed. The suffragette’s fought for women’s rights at a time where women didn’t have a voice, something drastic needed to be done and their actions needed to be ‘outrageous’ in order to get their point across however these days, not so much.
Let me just say that I researched into this protest quite a lot before I aired my views online because I realise that what I say may offend and I wouldn’t want to offend people with ill-informed opinions. I wanted to know why these women were protesting and what for. Digging deeper it seems that the issues they are protesting against run a lot deeper than simply protesting against domestic violence. They were protesting because of budget cuts to many of the women’s refuges in the country that have been set up to house and care for women escaping violent partners. Wonderful, what brilliant charities and if the cuts and consequent protests weren’t so damn hypocritical, I’d be angry along with them. But then we get to the reason for the cuts; equality law now says that in order for the government to continue to fund these refuges, they need to start opening their doors to male victims (who make over 40% of domestic violence victims might I add) in order to offer equal support to victims of domestic violence. These charities shunned this, and in their refusal to treat men and women equally they’ve had some of their funding cut. They would literally rather have their funding cut than allow male victims to come to them for support.
A movement that allegedly believes in equality of the sexes sure is incredibly sexist. To me the idea of domestic violence refuges taking in male victims seems a no brainer. Many men, even those who are victims of domestic abuse, probably wouldn’t admit to it and seek shelter anyway because of the way we treat such men; blasting them as weak because what kind of man could be hurt by a woman? In a day and age where men literally can’t fucking do or say anything to a woman without fear of being branded sexist it isn’t that hard for me to believe that there are men out there who are abused by their female partners enough to make them desperately in need of refuge. We women can be pretty horrible at times! It would be hypocritical of feminists to indicate that men couldn’t possibly be the victim of domestic abuse because that implies that women are too weak to hurt a man which is a notion considered sexist if said by anyone else (predominantly if said by a man). So we can’t kid ourselves and try to perpetuate that men simply cannot be victims of domestic abuse because that opens up a whole load of other problems, most of which would be hypocritical of a feminist to suggest.
I have, as a woman, completely disassociated myself with modern feminism and while I applaud and admire women like Emma Watson and Jennifer Lawrence who have both recently used intelligence and class to speak out about the various injustices that women still face, I do not want a group of childish women who see fit to throw themselves on the ground at a red carpet event to presume to speak for me. I recently had a run-in with someone who believed that what these women did was admirable and justifiable, who jumped down my throat when I expressed a differing point of view. Isn’t that what a lot of these type of feminists do these days? They preach about how women need a voice but very quickly try to silence, censor and shun any women who happens to hold a different point of view, rather than praise ALL women ALL THE TIME because we ALL deserve to not only have A voice, but OUR OWN voice. If I don’t conform to your views, I don’t want you to aggressively try to convert me I want you to accept, however begrudgingly, that I as an independent woman have my own opinions about things.
Extreme feminism has turned rather ugly of late and has become a whiney, childish, man-hating affair offering nothing to try and help women to progress. Instead they almost set us back with their childishness and make a mockery of what it is to be a woman in this day and age. I thank the women who made it possible for me to go to university and to vote and to have equal chances at getting a good job, I really do, now let’s make them proud by working it! Let’s show that we are worthy of the rights we now have and make use of so freely by putting in the effort and being intelligent. Let’s stand up for what we believe in with dignity and class, let’s do what the likes of Emma Watson and Jennifer Lawrence do and celebrate women’s successes and articulate our thoughts with class and intelligence. Let’s not throw ourselves on the ground at classy events in protest of something that is actually caused by something incredibly sexist and hypocritical. Let’s not be man-haters who want equality but only when it’s in favour of women (because that’s not equality, darling, that’s simply role reversal). I hate that there are good men out there who have been put off by these nasty extreme feminist attitudes to the point of genuinely believing we women are all the same. It bothers me that while I take pride in achievements I have worked hard for, there are women out there who think that if they whinge and throw a paddy they’ll just get given something without having to work.
I will take my husband’s surname when we marry, my dad will give me away at my wedding and there’s a good possibility that I might give up, or at least cut down on my work hours in order to bring up children one day in the future. I like when my boyfriend holds the door for me and I don’t complain when he offers to pay for the date (although normally we split it, not because I’m a feminist, that’s just how we roll). I don’t want feminists to ruin some of these traditional values because a lot of us actually enjoy them. Refuge should be available for male victims of domestic abuse, that shouldn’t even be up for debate it’s obvious! So rather than praise these women for having a public paddy in protest of violence against women, look at the real reason behind the funding cuts they were protesting, check out the hypocrisy of their actions and let’s start praising the amazing, intelligent and talented women who are advocating women’s rights every single day by working hard, showing off their talents and achieving in the face of adversity, and speaking up when they feel they need to speak up with dignity and intelligence.